A new and exciting phenomenon is gaining ground in popular culture; people are beginning to talk seriously about doing their shadow work. The idea of shadow work is now being readily promoted by therapists and coaches alike on social media and podcasts.
This case study, co-authored with my coaching client Tom (pseudonym), offers an intimate exploration of his struggle with chronic people-pleasing—a deeply ingrained pattern rooted in fear of conflict and judgment. Through Tom’s personal narrative, we uncover the psychological origins of this common trait, revealing how it shaped his relationships and sense of self. More than a recounting of challenges, this story is a testament to transformation. Through shadow work and dedicated self-reflection, Tom has begun to dismantle these tendencies, reclaiming his authenticity and building a path toward genuine connection and self-respect.
Our inherent compulsion to create and share stories is what sets us apart from all other species. While our animal counterparts are locked into instinctive patterns of behaviour, humans possess the cognitive ability to add meaning to and record narratives of past events.
Shadow work is looking within, to find the lost or hidden parts of ourselves and integrating these elements into a robust, authentic, inspired and empowered super being. At its core, shadow work is the process of exploring and integrating the parts of ourselves that we have repressed, denied, or hidden from our conscious awareness.