The People-Pleaser shadow — A Case Study

Pete Isaia

Published on: 10/07/2025

This case study, co-authored with my coaching client Tom (pseudonym), offers an intimate exploration of his struggle with chronic people-pleasing—a deeply ingrained pattern rooted in fear of conflict and judgment. Through Tom’s personal narrative, we uncover the psychological origins of this common trait, revealing how it shaped his relationships and sense of self. More than a recounting of challenges, this story is a testament to transformation. Through shadow work and dedicated self-reflection, Tom has begun to dismantle these tendencies, reclaiming his authenticity and building a path toward genuine connection and self-respect.

Shadow Work

The Stories We Tell

Pete Isaia

Published on: 12/06/2025

Our inherent compulsion to create and share stories is what sets us apart from all other species. While our animal counterparts are locked into instinctive patterns of behaviour, humans possess the cognitive ability to add meaning to and record narratives of past events.

Shadow Work

Silence of The Lambs

Pete Isaia

Published on: 23/09/2023

Under the direction of Prime Minister Anthony Albanese, the Australian Federal Government is seeking to pass a bill that will effectively censor free speech on digital platforms for much of the Australian public. Presented as an essential measure to protect vulnerable Australians from the “harm” of disinformation and misinformation, this bill has the potential to achieve the opposite, and put ordinary Australians in harms way.

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Discovering Your Sexual Shadow

Pete Isaia

Published on: 02/08/2023

An accurate definition of the shadow is everything within us that we’re unaware of; everything that is not in the light of consciousness.

Shadow Work